I have an interesting relationship with my wife and bike.
I've known my wife since high school, and back then, she was riding with me on the back of my CB750 or my Dad's fully dressed GL1000. Those were "exciting" times since her parents really didn't want her riding... and of course the rides were shorter distances for a date, or a "date" ride with 2WheelNut and his soon to be wife.
In college, I taught her how to ride herself using my GL500 Silverwing, and we kept a good riding relationship since that was my primary vehicle in college. Again though... short rides around town only.
In college, I traded my GL500 in for a 1991 Jeep Cherokee... which I still own today... and didn't own a touring bike for several years after that. Over 10 years ago... I bought a GL1500 on Craigslist and that started up the desire to take the bike further, and maybe recapture some of that nostalgia from riding with the girlfriend/wife back in the day. However, things haven't gone as planned.
She still enjoys the short rides... and the "date" night rides... but long distance touring just isn't really her thing. It's taken me 3 wings, and several comfort upgrades for the rear passenger to realize that. I've upgraded her seat to make her more comfortable, I've upgraded her helmet to be lighter and have less wind noise, I've added comfort foot pegs for her to stretch out, communications, music, cup holder, wind wings, full gear, and even bought her those cool Harley Davidson riding boots that she really liked. But... the reality is... her body just doesn't like long distance riding, and definitely not long days of riding in the twisties.
She wants to enjoy it... but her body just won't let her. She gets light headed, gets headaches easily from the wind noise and helmet, gets a bit "seasick" on the twisties, and ends up apologizing to me and any group we ride with anytime we've gone out. I admit... that's no fun when you always feel like you are the one dragging the group down.
Like 2WheelNut, we've done the whole "fly her out" thing, and that's about as best as I can hope to expect out of her. We do an annual Gatlinburg trip with the family and good friends and at least she will have folks to hang out with if she doesn't want to ride that day. If I take her on a leisurely color tour of the back-roads and mountains, then she will enjoy it... but if I take her on a spirited ride through the Dragon or Devil's Triangle, then I should expect to have to pull over for a while for her to recoup. So... we've learned to manage expectations a bit.
I'm heading up to Glacier with 2WheelNut and another buddy this June. We are flying the wives out... but their wives will be there for 6 days of riding, and mine will be there for only 3 (if she actually comes).
Riding to me is therapeutic. I get to the point sometimes that I just need to ride... any kind of ride. I just need the time on the open road with no other distractions and to enjoy the freedoms that riding allows. That said... I really, really wish I could share it more with my wife. But for now... I'll enjoy what riding time I can get with her, while I attempt to understand her body's limitations and work around them as much as possible to keep her a part of my riding life as long as she's willing.
She's the far left redhead in this pic. Also pictured are WhimpyHonda
, Terry (next to wimpy), 2Wheelnut
and his wife on far right.